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Are You A Thank You Type?

Thursday, April 27, 2017 by Ron Carlson

Brother in Christ,

Are you a thank you type?

If your parents were like mine, you grew up learning the importance of saying thank you. With that as part of my upbringing though, I’ve noticed my reaction is on the judgmental side when my wife or I do something for someone and they say…absolutely nothing. Okay, it’s a prideful thing I know, but it still irritates me. Is it really that hard to say “thank you?”

“Andy Stanley teaches this principle: unexpressed gratitude feels like ingratitude. Nothing chaps us like ingratitude. Even though we might not have done the 'thing' expecting a 'thank you,' there's a vacuum when one doesn't come. We feel unappreciated, taken for granted and even angry when our efforts toward kindness aren't acknowledged.” (From Unexpressed Gratitude by Regi Campbell)

While we may wish we could change the gratitude quotient of those we serve, this isn’t about expecting a thank you for everything we do. More than that, it’s a reminder and encouragement to continue to say 'thanks' for the things people do for you and me.

"…be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)

A man in our church takes time to do things the old-fashioned way. Instead of a text, twitter, Facebook comment or email he often sends out messages of gratitude with a handwritten note and get this….he sends it through the mail. It’s amazing how heartwarming it is to receive one of his cards. He’s learned gratitude multiplies blessings into others' lives. But it’s good for him too.

Regi Campbell tells of a friend who just started following Jesus. This new believer asked what he should do to make his relationship with the Lord more than just a 15 minute 'quiet time' in the morning. I really appreciated Regi’s advice.

“Say "Thank you, Lord!" All day long. Over and over. "Thank you God for loving me. Thank you Lord for saving me. Thank you for adopting me into your family. Thank you for sending Jesus to pay for my sins. Thank you for giving me peace about death and confidence about heaven. Thank you Lord for my life, my wife, my health, my future. Thank you for just listening to me, for being here with me, for making yourself available." (From Unexpressed Gratitude by Regi Campbell)

"Praise the LORD! Oh give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; For His lovingkindness is everlasting." (Psalm 106:1)

King David had an attitude of gratitude. In the New American Standard Bible, I counted 44 times where the phrase “give thanks” is recorded in the Psalms. What a great example for us. Even on the grayest of days, which we’ve had plenty of this winter, let’s endeavor to follow David’s example. Let’s be thankful for even the smallest of blessings and let’s do more than think it, let’s express it. Especially when it comes to our living God…should it really be that hard to say thank you?

Oh, and before I forget, thanks for reading this.

Ron

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Thursday, April 27, 2017 by Ron Carlson

If your parents were like mine, you grew up learning the importance of saying thank you. With that as part of my upbringing though, I’ve noticed my reaction is on the judgmental side when my wife or I do something for someone and they say…absolutely nothing. Okay, it’s a prideful thing I know, but it still irritates me. Is it really that hard to say “thank you?”

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